Principles

A Day To Live Again

May 20, 2013

  Oh little boy. If I could just pick one day in my life to live over and over again, it may well be today. Why not? It was a perfect day with you. We played in the ocean. You “swam” with my hands on your body offering support, guidance, and safety. You loved the [...]

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Chores Without Threats or Bribery

May 15, 2013

Contributing to household tasks and responsibilities is a great way for children to feel a sense of belonging. While at first, household contributions may only seem necessary to teach kids about responsibility (true; they do) and prevent a sense of entitlement (they do that, too), it may be surprising to learn that they also contribute something [...]

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Attachment, a Surprising Love Story

May 8, 2013

I called my friend, Javaughn in a panic on my way home from work (I started a part-time job as a teacher recently).  ”I have a post due for APtly Said tomorrow and I have not written anything. What should I write about?” Then she began talking about her own experience with co-sleeping and how [...]

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Preserving Bonds at Birth: Scent and Smell

May 6, 2013

Sometimes, life-saving and injury-preventing medical interventions are necessary for the best birth outcome. Always consult with a trusted and qualified midwife or obstetrician when planning your birth experience.  I thought about naming this series ‘Bonding at Birth’, but realized that wasn’t an accurate depiction of what happens at birth. The fact is, you and your [...]

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The Importance of Empathy

April 12, 2013

As mothers, especially those of us who practice attachment parenting; we truly believe that there is nothing more precious than our children. We love them unconditionally and raise them to be kind, loving, and compassionate towards others. We understand the importance of meeting our children’s unique and individual needs, and we strive to treat them [...]

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Never Stop Holding Hands

April 8, 2013

I remember when my children were newborns, they used to grasp my finger when I laid it in their tiny palms. A tight little grasp that seemed to say, “This is what I need. I want you here with me, and I’m not letting go.” I know it wasn’t cognitive; it was a reflex. A [...]

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Co-parenting: Sharing Our Struggles

March 8, 2013

Successful relationships require humility, that is, the ability to view our own wants and needs on a larger scale, which includes the wants and needs of others. As attachment parents, many of us know the importance of balancing our wants and needs with those of our child. In marriage, this balance can be a bit [...]

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Connection Before Correction: How Attachment Leads Our Discipline Style

February 27, 2013

In my parenting, the goal of obedience doesn’t exist. It’s important to emphasize the part about it being a goal. Notice that I didn’t say, “Obedience doesn’t exist in our household.” I mean that our children’s obedience to my husband and me is not something we specifically aim for. I get its importance, though, and I [...]

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