Presence

4 tips to help children grieve the loss of a pet

March 13, 2017

Until 5 a.m. this Valentine’s Day, we shared our home with a sweet ginger kitty named Sophie. She was our special friend and bed warmer for 14 years. Her presence was an orange-colored angora thread woven through the fabric of our family’s life. Now we find ourselves confronted with having no choice but to traverse […]

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What family legacy are you passing on to your children?

March 10, 2017
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What about boys and Attachment Parenting?

March 7, 2017

“As a culture, we have always had different perceptions and expectations of boys. People often fear that if boys are nurtured too much, it somehow warps their personalities and makes them too dependent and too sensitive. Conventional attitudes about boys permeate all aspects of society — parents, grandparents, teachers, and coaches — and has created…a […]

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Still Face: A lesson in responsiveness and relationship repair for ALL caregivers

February 24, 2017

How important is it that we give our infants and children intentional presence? The third of API’s Eight Principles of Parenting — respond with sensitivity — is one of two common threads that run through all 8 principles. The other is to provide consistent and loving care. Research that began with the late psychologist John Bowlby’s […]

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Preparing for childbirth: The delicate dance between pushing out and letting go

February 22, 2017

Observing a friend struggling with, and complaining about, the last days of her pregnancy –constantly posting on Facebook about how she finally wanted her baby to make an appearance in the “real world,” listing details about all the activities she undertook in order to make this happen ASAP — made me reflect on the delicate dance that […]

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Nighttime parenting

February 21, 2017
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6 games to instill mindfulness and gratitude in our children (and ourselves)

February 20, 2017

Since I became a mom 10 years ago, I have been committed to helping my daughter see the good in things as a first reflex. My own upbringing did not allow for this way of being in the world and, instead, instilled the typical apprehension and worry that seems to be passed down to children […]

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Falling in love is scary…3 tips that make it safer

February 14, 2017

Falling in love with our kids is a daring thing to do. Love opens us up, wide open, no armor, no defenses. We’re naked and vulnerable when we’re in love. Love is powerful. It’s not just cupids and chocolates and diamonds. It’s raw, heart, open, vulnerable, crazy, courageous, light that shines on every dark corner, […]

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