Presence

Choosing to Sit in the Dark

August 13, 2014

Brené Brown is a researcher at the University of Houston whose work centers on shame, empathy and vulnerability. She has written several books and speaks all over the world on these important topics, which have a dramatic effect on the ways we live, work and raise our children. I just love this segment of one of […]

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Revering parenthood is patriotism

July 4, 2014

By Terri Murray While up in Washington, DC, USA, visiting my aunt and my grandma, one morning my husband and I were able to walk down the street with our youngest for a quick cup of coffee and to walk our Corgi. The quick cup of coffee turned into a fascinating hour-long conversation with a […]

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Saved by AP and now 8 kids later: An interview with Margie Wilson-Mars

July 2, 2014

Through APtly Said, I have had the privilege of meeting Margie Wilson-Mars of Salem, Oregon, USA. A parenting writer and blogger, Margie and her husband of almost 20 years, Robert, have eight children ages 27, 25, 23, 21, 14, 12, 9 and 8—seven sons and one daughter, three of the boys who are on the […]

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Make a “Play” List with Your Kids

April 23, 2014

My son is seven and a half, attending public school, and  just getting everything done in a day is a challenge. He is exhausted from being around kids all day and I have client emails to send and dishes that need washing. From the alarm in the morning until bedtime, we are negotiating transitions, trying to […]

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Why?

December 17, 2013

“Why mama?” Two huge brown eyes looked up at me, searching for answers. I stopped stirring and put down the spoon. “Because it is hot, and I don’t want you to get hurt.” Acceptance. There was no drama, no bargaining or rewards. Only contentment, pure and simple. For me, “Why?” is one of the most […]

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The Gift Is You

December 12, 2013

This post was written by TheAttachedFamily.com contributor Stacy Jagger, MMFT, owner of Sunnybrook Counseling, www.sunnybrookcounseling.com. Many parents I see in my counseling office are spending thousands of dollars on a variety of technological devices for their children each year–gaming systems, digital cameras, cell phones, etc.–while the children, who are displaying maladaptive behaviors and internal turmoil, […]

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Empathy: The Foundation of Emotion Coaching

December 10, 2013

This post was written by Stephanie Petters, coordinator of the API Reads program. The discussion of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child  by John Gottman, PhD is continuing to unfold as we near the end of the book.  An excerpt from the book: “When children feel emotionally connected to their parents and the parents use this […]

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When Your Partner Wants You to Wean: Heart Advice for Nursing Mothers

November 12, 2013

*The terms “husband” and “partner” are used interchangeably throughout this post. “She’s too old to nurse. You need to stop.” “There’s no way my son is nursing when he’s three years old!” “You are being selfish. Breastfeeding past one year is unnecessary. You only do this because it gives you pleasure.” “I should have a […]

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