Presence

There is no night and day

October 18, 2014

Attachment Parenting International is 20 years old. Twenty years of promoting connection and spreading reassuring support to parents across the globe! When I first became a mother, I followed every instinct to connect with and nurture my baby. I held her, I nursed her, I gazed into her eyes…regardless of the time of day. Strangely […]

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Impact of praise, an inside view

October 13, 2014

I’ve been on board with limiting praise for my kids ever since reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. I understood the negative impacts of praise in theory, I learned how to limit praise in parenting and I was happy with my decision. But I didn’t understand the internal impact of praise until recently. The Back […]

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Mindful Parenting

September 15, 2014

The Chinese idiogram for “mindfulness” pictured here is made up of two different elements: the top part meaning “presence” over the bottom part meaning “heart.” This makes  for a wonderful translation of the word, “mindfulness,” into “presence of heart.” I chose this translation as this introduction to mindful parenting, because I feel it is a […]

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Holding Space for Letdown

September 8, 2014

“All I want for my birthday is to go away with Daddy.” It was months before my daughter’s sixth birthday. Although she had been on many vacations, she never traveled with her dad. My happiness at his agreement to take her away shifted into heartbreak when he decided to plan a trip without her. My only solace in his decision was […]

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Choosing to Sit in the Dark

August 13, 2014

Brené Brown is a researcher at the University of Houston whose work centers on shame, empathy and vulnerability. She has written several books and speaks all over the world on these important topics, which have a dramatic effect on the ways we live, work and raise our children. I just love this segment of one of […]

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Revering parenthood is patriotism

July 4, 2014

By Terri Murray While up in Washington, DC, USA, visiting my aunt and my grandma, one morning my husband and I were able to walk down the street with our youngest for a quick cup of coffee and to walk our Corgi. The quick cup of coffee turned into a fascinating hour-long conversation with a […]

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Saved by AP and now 8 kids later: An interview with Margie Wilson-Mars

July 2, 2014

Through APtly Said, I have had the privilege of meeting Margie Wilson-Mars of Salem, Oregon, USA. A parenting writer and blogger, Margie and her husband of almost 20 years, Robert, have eight children ages 27, 25, 23, 21, 14, 12, 9 and 8—seven sons and one daughter, three of the boys who are on the […]

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Make a “Play” List with Your Kids

April 23, 2014

My son is seven and a half, attending public school, and  just getting everything done in a day is a challenge. He is exhausted from being around kids all day and I have client emails to send and dishes that need washing. From the alarm in the morning until bedtime, we are negotiating transitions, trying to […]

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