Strive for Balance

Understanding Shame, part 5: Healing emotional trauma

March 3, 2017

Editor’s note: This week, we offer you a 5-part series — originating in The Attached Family online magazine’s “Parenting Without Shame” issue — to help you better understand the development of toxic shame. Part 1 explained how trauma includes 3 components: Fear, Disconnection, and Shame. Part 2 explored Fear. Part 3 defined Disconnection. Part 4 […]

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Understanding Shame, part 4: Growing up shame-based

March 2, 2017

Editor’s note: This week, we offer you a 5-part series — originating in The Attached Family online magazine’s “Parenting Without Shame” issue — to help you better understand the development of toxic shame. Part 1 explained how trauma includes 3 components: Fear, Disconnection, and Shame. Part 2 explored Fear. Part 3 defined Disconnection. In this […]

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Preparing for childbirth: The delicate dance between pushing out and letting go

February 22, 2017

Observing a friend struggling with, and complaining about, the last days of her pregnancy –constantly posting on Facebook about how she finally wanted her baby to make an appearance in the “real world,” listing details about all the activities she undertook in order to make this happen ASAP — made me reflect on the delicate dance that […]

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We have to be seeking growth to be able to experience it

February 15, 2017
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How an insecure childhood attachment affects a marriage…and what you can do about that

February 7, 2017

This summer, my husband and I will celebrate 15 years together. It has been a wild, sweet, frustrating at times, unforgettable ride through the years. I thought it would’ve grown easier over time. In some ways, it has. In other ways, it hasn’t. I’m learning that is exactly how marriage is. It’s a relationship, and […]

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Weekly Reflection: Voicing your opinion goes a long way

January 30, 2017

This week’s API Reads Weekly Reflection focuses on the importance of parents voicing their opinions to their partner in a competent way. As you read the quote, take time to reflect on what it means to you, how you can incorporate its meaning into your family, and how it encourages you: “Children who watch both […]

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