Adoption and Foster Care

An Adopted Daughter Reflects on Her Birth Mother’s Decision

September 20, 2014

By Juliette Oase, retired API Leader from Portland, Oregon, USA My adoptive dad spent years regretting that they had me call them “Mom” and “Dad.” He always said they should have just stayed “Uncle” and “Aunt.” He felt it would have made it easier. I recently explained to my dad that I feel that was […]

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An Adoptive Father’s Epiphany

September 14, 2014

Editor’s note: Today’s post is by John Brooks of Marin County, California, USA, author of The Girl Behind the Door, a memoir of his parenting journey with an adopted daughter whose attachment wounds went unnoticed by the professional community until it was too late. Prior to his daughter’s death, John was a senior financial executive […]

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Attachment, a Surprising Love Story

May 8, 2013

I called my friend, Javaughn in a panic on my way home from work (I started a part-time job as a teacher recently).  “I have a post due for APtly Said tomorrow and I have not written anything. What should I write about?” Then she began talking about her own experience with co-sleeping and how […]

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Enough With the Mom Enough Stuff. Can We Just Talk?

September 7, 2012

There’s little more demoralizing than being told what we’re doing is wrong, or that there’s a better way, or worse – that we’re in some way harming or damaging our children. We take it very personally, especially when the criticism centers around our parenting. That’s why the TIME cover and tagline, “Are You Mom Enough” […]

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Spring Mini Series Kick Off

March 25, 2010

Spring is finally coming! And with Spring, fresh ideas are flowing again, somewhat slowly like the sap in the trees but flowing none the less. So to kick off this spring I am going to embark on a mini series of the dangers of so called “baby training” and its effect on the parent/child attachment. […]

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Why AP?

September 23, 2009

This post addresses a sensitive topic, and therefore might generate some strong emotions. I am a very vocal advocate of attachment parenting and the consequences that impact our lives if we choose not to fully attach to, and be attached to by, our children. As I sit holding my 14 1/2 month old son, he […]

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The Journey To Attachment Parenting

August 9, 2009

Since this is my first post, I thought I would use a piece I wrote when my son, Matteo was just a couple of months old. It was written late one night, when I realized just how I had gotten to believe and feel as strongly as I did about my parenting ideals. My journey […]

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Expanding Our Attachment

September 28, 2008

Last night we embarked on the first step of our journey to become foster care parents in hopes to adopt a child. After sitting in the meeting with other parents like us, I learned that we all had the same idea. I thought it was wonderful that so many want to open their homes and […]

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