Kelly Bartlett

Connection Before Correction: How Attachment Leads Our Discipline Style

February 27, 2013

In my parenting, the goal of obedience doesn’t exist. It’s important to emphasize the part about it being a goal. Notice that I didn’t say, “Obedience doesn’t exist in our household.” I mean that our children’s obedience to my husband and me is not something we specifically aim for. I get its importance, though, and I […]

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Why Kids Don’t Need Praise (And What They Need Instead)

February 1, 2013

Recently, I was chatting with a mom at the playground about kids’ behavior, and she commented to me that kids need praise and approval from their parents, as there are too many dysfunctional adults in the world to indicate otherwise. To this, my response was, “I think what they need more than praise and approval […]

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When ‘No’ Doesn’t Mean ‘No’

January 9, 2013

The word “No” can make a terrible first impression. Sometimes it just doesn’t convey everything it intends. Especially if it comes from a young child: it’s not quite as literal as it seems. Upon first impression, “No!” sounds like: I refuse. I won’t listen. I’m defying you. I don’t respect you. Those are usually our first thoughts […]

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5 Encouraging Phrases Kids Need to Hear

October 29, 2012

It’s no secret that kids need encouragement to thrive. But what exactly does encouragement sound like? It’s different than praise or admiration or guidance. It is common to want to give evaluative feedback to kids for their work (“Good coloring!”), or to tell them what we like about their accomplishments (“I like how you set […]

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Parenting Beyond the Rule Book

September 19, 2012

Recently, each of my kids has made a comment about family rules lately that made me realize: we don’t have any. Well, nothing formal anyway. Not to give you the impression that our home is a chaotic free-for-all, devoid of any kind of morality. I like order and manners and helpful contributions as much as […]

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Goodnight iPad: Cutting Down on Screen Time

April 30, 2012

I flipped through this book at the counter of our local toy store the other day. It’s a humorous take on the classic “Goodnight Moon,” which my kids and I have read together countless times. And it is funny; an apt exaggeration of how virtuality has replaced so much of what is “real.” But it […]

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The Man in The Yellow Hat Exemplifies Positive Discipline

December 12, 2011

A few of my parent friends have pointed out that as much as their kids enjoy watching the PBS show “Curious George”, George always gets into trouble (makes a mess, does something wrong, doesn’t stay where he’s supposed to, etc…) and nothing ever happens to him for it.  He never gets punished or has a […]

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Playtime Grows Up

October 21, 2011

Young children play effortlessly. Kids are naturally predisposed to play, and it doesn’t take much to engage a child in a silly game or role-play. Through play, kids express feelings, needs, thoughts and ideas that they might not yet have the words to articulate. Playing together lets parents connect and communicate with kids beyond a […]

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