And we said bye-bye to breastfeeding

by Divya Singh on December 28, 2015

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divya singh 1This holiday season, my 3-1/2-year-old daughter and I said bye-bye to our breastfeeding relationship on a very happy note. Here is how it worked for us:

When my daughter turned 2 years old, every now and then I talked about weaning, but she wanted to continue the morning and bedtime nursings. Then, on Thanksgiving weekend at the end of November, our weaning time came.

With a bad cold, she had been nursing a couple times at night in the 7 to 10 days before. One of these mornings I had sore nipples, and I told her I was hurting so she should be gentle. To my surprise, she just licked both sides and called it done. The following morning, she wanted to just cuddle, talk and sing before starting our day.

The first two nights after this, I intentionally avoided our bedtime routine — which she had been okay with on some recent weekends — because she was very tired, having missed her naps at daycare. The third night, after our usual night routine — to my amazement — she said she didn’t want “amma duddhu” (mommy’s milk)! I knew then that she was done.

And we said bye-bye:

And we said bye-bye to “amma duddhu.”
You didn’t cry, nor did I —
One small step, one big moment,
To let go of this elixir so potent!

And we said bye-bye to “amma duddhu.”
You were ready, and so was I —
A moment to pause, and celebrate,
So many to thank and dedicate!

And we said bye-bye to “amma duddhu,”
Like your first walk, like your first talk,
This was surely one milestone,
On this parenting voyage, a large capstone!

And we said bye-bye to “amma duddhu.”
When so many said you were too old to nurse
And questioned why I continued to nurse,
You affirmed our bond like a poem or verse!

Thanks for choosing me, your amma!

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Divya Singh (3 Posts)

Divya is a full-time working mom who lives in Portland, Oregon, USA, with her husband and daughter. Before starting their careers in the Pacific Northwest, both she and her husband came to the United States as graduate students from India to East Coast universities. They are trying to raise their daughter with API's Eight Principles of Parenting and in their own mother tongues from India, Hindi and Tamil. Divya first came to know about Attachment Parenting International (API) from her pediatrician, whose book collection included books by Dr. William Sears. She has benefitted greatly from the experience of fellow moms at her job and API's blog. When possible, she enjoys the outdoors with kids, friends and neighbors.


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monica December 29, 2015 at 3:11 am

I’m looking forward to hear my daughter Qodos telling me those words. Mommy I don’t want mommy’s milk. She will be turning 2 in few weeks time and she is still nirsing. I and her dad are very proud of her. She listen, she knows what she want. She says sorry and hug momm or daddy when realize she has done something wrong. We have been updating her from time to time when she turns 2. No more(nyonyo)…breastmilk. we marked the date on calender too and she promised it will be over. May God fulfill our desires and give us strength to continue watching over our daughter. She is a gift to us

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Kari December 29, 2015 at 8:22 pm

This is so sweet! Still nursing my daughter who turns 3 in May and my 17 week old. Both love mommy’s milk! Thank you for sharing!

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Sara January 13, 2016 at 5:15 pm

This is so sweet. What a beautiful way to bring that part of your relationship to a close.

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