Comments on: Overcoming Isolation When a Baby Arrives http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2010/03/10/overcoming-isolation-when-a-baby-arrives/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: MamanADroit http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2010/03/10/overcoming-isolation-when-a-baby-arrives/comment-page-1/#comment-4311 MamanADroit Sun, 14 Mar 2010 19:14:50 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=2435#comment-4311 This was definitely tough for me. I had contractions and bleeding for 8 days before they delivered Baby via c-section, so besides being inexperienced with babies, I was also in a lot of pain and fatigue, and trying to recover without medication as much as possible because I was breastfeeding. Talking on the phone to my parents, in-laws, and even my brothers and grandparents helped me not feel so isolated. I definitely recommend getting a cell or landline phone plan with lots (or unlimited) of minutes if you can afford it! This was definitely tough for me. I had contractions and bleeding for 8 days before they delivered Baby via c-section, so besides being inexperienced with babies, I was also in a lot of pain and fatigue, and trying to recover without medication as much as possible because I was breastfeeding. Talking on the phone to my parents, in-laws, and even my brothers and grandparents helped me not feel so isolated. I definitely recommend getting a cell or landline phone plan with lots (or unlimited) of minutes if you can afford it!

]]> By: abbie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2010/03/10/overcoming-isolation-when-a-baby-arrives/comment-page-1/#comment-4285 abbie Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:31:01 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=2435#comment-4285 Thanks for this post Amber! With my baby due any time, I appreciate the tips! Thanks for this post Amber! With my baby due any time, I appreciate the tips!

]]> By: Jaimee http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2010/03/10/overcoming-isolation-when-a-baby-arrives/comment-page-1/#comment-4283 Jaimee Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:50:25 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=2435#comment-4283 This is a great topic and one that is definitely overlooked in our society. This why we have such high rates of postpartum depression and maternal mortality in this country. Mothers, especially first time mothers, need help to adjust to life with a new little one. One 6 week postpartum OB appointment is hardly sufficient. Many midwives visit several times in the first few weeks, but you might even need more than that. If you don't have any relatives close by, as the article mentioned, a postpartum doula can be a life saver. After the first couple of weeks, I found baby groups and "play" dates with other moms of babies to be invaluable. Looking forward to someone coming to visit or forcing myself to get out of the house made me feel human and when I feel good, I'm a better mother. Support is absolutely crucial. Now you can get on the internet and visit sites like API's or MDC's discussion forums. It's a great way to connect with other mothers and get advice. But, don't underestimate the importance of real life contacts. When you child gets older, you'll need older kids around to entertain them and babysitting exchanges are a great way for you to get some alone time or go out on a date. This is a great topic and one that is definitely overlooked in our society. This why we have such high rates of postpartum depression and maternal mortality in this country. Mothers, especially first time mothers, need help to adjust to life with a new little one. One 6 week postpartum OB appointment is hardly sufficient. Many midwives visit several times in the first few weeks, but you might even need more than that. If you don’t have any relatives close by, as the article mentioned, a postpartum doula can be a life saver.

After the first couple of weeks, I found baby groups and “play” dates with other moms of babies to be invaluable. Looking forward to someone coming to visit or forcing myself to get out of the house made me feel human and when I feel good, I’m a better mother. Support is absolutely crucial. Now you can get on the internet and visit sites like API’s or MDC’s discussion forums. It’s a great way to connect with other mothers and get advice. But, don’t underestimate the importance of real life contacts. When you child gets older, you’ll need older kids around to entertain them and babysitting exchanges are a great way for you to get some alone time or go out on a date.

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