Comments on: Toddler Ten Commandments

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Staying Patient | Attachment Parenting International Blog — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 11:05:05 +0000

[...] “wat dat?” “where mama go?”) to the wild mood swings and outbursts, life with one to three year old kids can be difficult. But screaming back at your angry two year old is not going to help him learn how to handle his [...]

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Bad Momma Day « The Covered Wagon — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 05:28:18 +0000

[...] And then I saw this article: The Toddler Ten Commandments. [...]

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 05:38:22 +0000

Genius! Thanks so much! What a gift to share with us all (and those funny husbands who don’t enjoy having entire books read out loud to them… !

By: Lisa P

Lisa P — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 07:39:30 +0000

Wow, I am honored!

By: Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

Dionna @ Code Name: Mama — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 05:37:52 +0000

Thank you Elly and Veronika – I’m so happy it was helpful for you.

Raegan – thank you for the book rec. I’m right in the middle of “How to Talk So Your Child Will Listen,” but I will put that one on hold!

Lisa – You don’t know how much I love the fact that the only criticism so far is that it’s too “parenty” I totally agree, and I had similar thoughts when I reread this list before posting it (I wrote this several months ago). I really love your suggestion about changing it to seeing behavior as unmet needs – that says it with a lot less judgment or expectation that it might be “misbehavior.” I don’t think I can edit this post, but I will change it on my own site!

By: Lisa P

Lisa P — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:54:30 +0000

Great list! The only one I have an “issue” with is 7. I personally don’t like the idea of seeing behavior as “teachable moments” – unless you are talking about the parent doing the learning lol! But I don’t think you were. I think this is a slippery slope, and paves the way for alot of “blahblahblah” from the parent when what the child is needing is empathy and understanding. I would much rather “teach” by being a role model and letting my child experience the world and form their own opinions. I think this “inner wisdom” will be much more powerful and helpful as the child grows older. I would love for number 7 to read instead, “see behavior as unmet needs”.

By: Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

Dionna @ Code Name: Mama — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:09:33 +0000

Thank you Lee

By: Lee

Lee — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 05:18:56 +0000

Thank you, so much! Loved this!

By: raegan

raegan — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 04:35:35 +0000

these are awesome. just last night, when i was putting my almost 5yo to bed, i said, “k, i’m so proud of you.” he beamed, then asked why. “just because you’re you. you’re such a fun, nice kid, and a great big brother.” “thanks, mommy,” was his reply. i tell him that several times a week, but for some reason it resonated with him last night.

i’d also add “nonviolent communication: a language of life” by marshall rosenberg to your list of references. it teaches REAL communication and acting from a place of compassion rather than coercion. it really goes hand in hand with the unconditional parenting practices, but it applies to ALL relationships in your life.

i, too, will be printing copies of this and reviewing them with dh.

By: Veronika

Veronika — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 03:45:53 +0000

Thank you for sharing!
I will pass it to my husband also