Comments on: Self-Pity and Me. http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/27/self-pity-and-me/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: julz http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/27/self-pity-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4416 julz Fri, 26 Mar 2010 13:26:24 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1764#comment-4416 Maria, when my son is sick, he doesn't want anyone else but mommy. I think the last thing on a mommas mind while a child is sick is finding a babysitter. Stephanie, I'd love to read more on how other AP parents deal with that. Maria, when my son is sick, he doesn’t want anyone else but mommy. I think the last thing on a mommas mind while a child is sick is finding a babysitter.

Stephanie, I’d love to read more on how other AP parents deal with that.

]]> By: Stephanie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/27/self-pity-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-3436 Stephanie Sat, 28 Nov 2009 06:02:22 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1764#comment-3436 I second Maria's points but I see what you mean in your response. I understand. I also wanted to add that I'm reassured to hear that someone else doesn't want more clinging etc. at the end of the day. Lots of times I feel like I'm giving and giving all day, and then when I want to rest/recharge after a long day (and the kids are finally asleep) then my husband is feeling needy and I am torn between meeting yet another person's needs or meeting my own. I second Maria’s points but I see what you mean in your response. I understand.

I also wanted to add that I’m reassured to hear that someone else doesn’t want more clinging etc. at the end of the day. Lots of times I feel like I’m giving and giving all day, and then when I want to rest/recharge after a long day (and the kids are finally asleep) then my husband is feeling needy and I am torn between meeting yet another person’s needs or meeting my own.

]]> By: Jasmine http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/27/self-pity-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-3435 Jasmine Sat, 28 Nov 2009 01:32:36 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1764#comment-3435 Maria, I completely agree with you! There is def. a time for "you" time and also a time for couple time with your partner so that you can maintain a healthy relationship, this post, and maybe I should have clarified more, was speaking right to my attitude of "poor me" that I found myself falling in to. Thank you for pointing out to take healthy - guilt free - time for yourself! Maria,
I completely agree with you! There is def. a time for “you” time and also a time for couple time with your partner so that you can maintain a healthy relationship, this post, and maybe I should have clarified more, was speaking right to my attitude of “poor me” that I found myself falling in to.

Thank you for pointing out to take healthy – guilt free – time for yourself!

]]> By: Maria http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/27/self-pity-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-3433 Maria Fri, 27 Nov 2009 23:25:35 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1764#comment-3433 You've got a good point, but that doesn't mean you still don't need some "me" time now! You need to find someone to watch your little boy for 3-4 hours so you can have a break! One thing that concerns me a little about some AP promoters is that they sometimes seem to advocate that AP means complete self-sacrifice and denying any personal needs for time and space. AP must also honor the parents as well as the children. I'm AP - breastfeeding toddler, babywearing, cosleeping, etc - but I recognize that I need some time alone for myself and I don't feel guilty about it. Nor should you. You’ve got a good point, but that doesn’t mean you still don’t need some “me” time now! You need to find someone to watch your little boy for 3-4 hours so you can have a break! One thing that concerns me a little about some AP promoters is that they sometimes seem to advocate that AP means complete self-sacrifice and denying any personal needs for time and space. AP must also honor the parents as well as the children. I’m AP – breastfeeding toddler, babywearing, cosleeping, etc – but I recognize that I need some time alone for myself and I don’t feel guilty about it. Nor should you.

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