Comments on: I Never Want to Sleep Alone http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Ami http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-4143 Ami Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:36:10 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-4143 I totally agree with you, Brandy! I co-slept even longer than your daughter! It's a bit embarrassing to admit how old I was, but let's just say, that at least I stopped co-sleeping before I hit double-digit age!! If/when I have kids, they'll be allowed to co-sleep as long as they want because I doubt they'd still be co-sleeping by the time they hit teens, or even double-digit age!! I totally agree with you, Brandy!

I co-slept even longer than your daughter! It’s a bit embarrassing to admit how old I was, but let’s just say, that at least I stopped co-sleeping before I hit double-digit age!!

If/when I have kids, they’ll be allowed to co-sleep as long as they want because I doubt they’d still be co-sleeping by the time they hit teens, or even double-digit age!!

]]> By: tjosban@sbcglobal.net http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3382 tjosban@sbcglobal.net Fri, 20 Nov 2009 02:29:08 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3382 Our oldest has slept in our bed on and off since birth. She's just now taking an interest in sleeping in her own bed, but often comes to our bed during the night. She and her sister share the room. The younger child has had a strong desire to sleep alone since about 3 months. Humans are social creatures and have varying levels of need. I don't know why society fights so hard to stuff us all in the same box. We're not all going to fit. Our oldest has slept in our bed on and off since birth. She’s just now taking an interest in sleeping in her own bed, but often comes to our bed during the night. She and her sister share the room. The younger child has had a strong desire to sleep alone since about 3 months.

Humans are social creatures and have varying levels of need. I don’t know why society fights so hard to stuff us all in the same box. We’re not all going to fit.

]]> By: Josie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3379 Josie Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:56:28 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3379 Oh I love checking out all you AP parents - it's so heart warming and reassuring. My little girl, 20 months now, sleeps with us and I LOVE it! I have such horrible memories of feeling alone and scared and that lingers on to this day. I realise at times I get tense when I allow the perceptions and opinions of others to filter in and I just have to ground myself, look at my beautiful girl sleeping by my side snuggled up and safe and say "Yes, this is how it should be!" She will be grown up all too soon and these moments are precious, precious, precious. For Cassie with the 1-2 hour waking 8 month old, it was a real struggle for us to break the feeding habit. I got to 18 months and was so exhausted but couldn't bear the thought of her crying, even if she was with me. However, something had to give, I went on an AP forum and got some brilliant advice, the following link particularly, and ended up having one night of crying for 15 minutes and now she sleeps for 7-8 hour stints. http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp Good Luck x Oh I love checking out all you AP parents – it’s so heart warming and reassuring. My little girl, 20 months now, sleeps with us and I LOVE it! I have such horrible memories of feeling alone and scared and that lingers on to this day. I realise at times I get tense when I allow the perceptions and opinions of others to filter in and I just have to ground myself, look at my beautiful girl sleeping by my side snuggled up and safe and say “Yes, this is how it should be!” She will be grown up all too soon and these moments are precious, precious, precious.
For Cassie with the 1-2 hour waking 8 month old, it was a real struggle for us to break the feeding habit. I got to 18 months and was so exhausted but couldn’t bear the thought of her crying, even if she was with me. However, something had to give, I went on an AP forum and got some brilliant advice, the following link particularly, and ended up having one night of crying for 15 minutes and now she sleeps for 7-8 hour stints. http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp
Good Luck x

]]> By: Lauren @ Hobo Mama http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3374 Lauren @ Hobo Mama Thu, 19 Nov 2009 06:54:19 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3374 I am so totally in agreement. I hated sleeping alone growing up and was actually really happy to get to college & finally have a roommate! Our 2-year-old doesn't yet know there is such a thing as sleeping alone, and we all love it. I am so totally in agreement. I hated sleeping alone growing up and was actually really happy to get to college & finally have a roommate! Our 2-year-old doesn’t yet know there is such a thing as sleeping alone, and we all love it.

]]> By: Cassie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3373 Cassie Thu, 19 Nov 2009 04:25:41 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3373 We absolutely LOVE sleeping with our 8 month old baby girl, and plan to for as long as she would like. However, since birth, she has always woken up every 1 to 2 hours throughout the night, and we are wondering if co-sleeping will just encourage this night-waking. Or will she just one day magically sleep through the night even though the all night buffet is right next door? Just curious to know other people's thoughts and experiences :) We absolutely LOVE sleeping with our 8 month old baby girl, and plan to for as long as she would like. However, since birth, she has always woken up every 1 to 2 hours throughout the night, and we are wondering if co-sleeping will just encourage this night-waking. Or will she just one day magically sleep through the night even though the all night buffet is right next door? Just curious to know other people’s thoughts and experiences :)

]]> By: Kristin http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3368 Kristin Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:37:57 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3368 Love this! I can't imagine not having my little one right next to me...it's perfect! Love this! I can’t imagine not having my little one right next to me…it’s perfect!

]]> By: m a m a :: m i l i e u http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3367 m a m a :: m i l i e u Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:40:15 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3367 We have an 11 month old and I already hear many of the same criticisms. It's nice to see that you are having incredibly positive results from your co-sleeping experience. Now I am armed with positive information that I can use to ward of nagging judgments from my relatives this holiday season. yuck. Thanks for that, mama. We have an 11 month old and I already hear many of the same criticisms. It’s nice to see that you are having incredibly positive results from your co-sleeping experience. Now I am armed with positive information that I can use to ward of nagging judgments from my relatives this holiday season. yuck. Thanks for that, mama.

]]> By: Kacie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3366 Kacie Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:32:49 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3366 I don't understand why it's so "important" for children to be able to sleep alone. Most married couples sleep in the same bed, ya know? I don’t understand why it’s so “important” for children to be able to sleep alone. Most married couples sleep in the same bed, ya know?

]]> By: Carolyn http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3365 Carolyn Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:31:08 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3365 My 2 year old wants us to fall asleep with her. I have worried about this - her 2 year old cousin sleeps alone and quickly. For us, it takes a very long time. She is our first baby, so thanks for validating we're ok. :) My 2 year old wants us to fall asleep with her. I have worried about this – her 2 year old cousin sleeps alone and quickly. For us, it takes a very long time. She is our first baby, so thanks for validating we’re ok. :)

]]> By: Brandy http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/18/i-never-want-to-sleep-alone/comment-page-1/#comment-3364 Brandy Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:41:04 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1767#comment-3364 Our 5yr old still sleeps in our room every night. She falls asleep on her own, no problems ... but isn't wanting her own room quite yet. We don't mind. We love having our girls (I have a 13mo old who sleeps right next to me -- easier for night nursing sessions!) close to us. They grow so quickly. Time will fly by and next thing we know, our oldest will be ready for her own room. Our 5yr old still sleeps in our room every night. She falls asleep on her own, no problems … but isn’t wanting her own room quite yet. We don’t mind. We love having our girls (I have a 13mo old who sleeps right next to me — easier for night nursing sessions!) close to us. They grow so quickly. Time will fly by and next thing we know, our oldest will be ready for her own room.

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