Comments on: If You Love Somebody, Set Them Free. http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/12/if-you-love-somebody-set-them-free/ Thu, 17 May 2012 16:35:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Thomas Paine http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/12/if-you-love-somebody-set-them-free/comment-page-1/#comment-3349 Thomas Paine Mon, 16 Nov 2009 05:14:14 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1746#comment-3349 I was just talking about this same phenomenon with a fellow parent who has a daughter a few months older than my 16 month old son. It was in a slightly different context however. We were talking about her daughter's latest game which is to run towards the street so that her parents will chase her. I commented on how her daughter's feeling of immortality would continue well past being a toddler and knowing to look both ways before crossing the street. We agreed that you have to become a parent to truly realize your own mortality. Until you have see the next generation life is an unending road. I was just talking about this same phenomenon with a fellow parent who has a daughter a few months older than my 16 month old son. It was in a slightly different context however. We were talking about her daughter’s latest game which is to run towards the street so that her parents will chase her. I commented on how her daughter’s feeling of immortality would continue well past being a toddler and knowing to look both ways before crossing the street. We agreed that you have to become a parent to truly realize your own mortality. Until you have see the next generation life is an unending road.

]]> By: Samantha Gregory http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/12/if-you-love-somebody-set-them-free/comment-page-1/#comment-3341 Samantha Gregory Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:24:38 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1746#comment-3341 Twelve years ago I was where you are now. My daughter was nursing one minute and the next she didn't want to nurse anymore. I was devastated because I wanted that bonding to continue. Little did I know that the time we did have would carry us through an incredible journey of heartache, bad relationships, and currently new beginnings. The time does pass quickly and letting go is hard, but you are insightful enough to prepare yourself for the changes to come. Letting go is an intermittent process. They come and go several times throughout their development so you get to welcome them back again and again. Twelve years ago I was where you are now. My daughter was nursing one minute and the next she didn’t want to nurse anymore. I was devastated because I wanted that bonding to continue. Little did I know that the time we did have would carry us through an incredible journey of heartache, bad relationships, and currently new beginnings.

The time does pass quickly and letting go is hard, but you are insightful enough to prepare yourself for the changes to come. Letting go is an intermittent process. They come and go several times throughout their development so you get to welcome them back again and again.

]]> By: Stephanie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/12/if-you-love-somebody-set-them-free/comment-page-1/#comment-3340 Stephanie Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:21:00 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1746#comment-3340 Sob! I know exactly how you feel. So beautifully written and articulated. Sob! I know exactly how you feel. So beautifully written and articulated.

]]> By: Carolyn http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/12/if-you-love-somebody-set-them-free/comment-page-1/#comment-3339 Carolyn Thu, 12 Nov 2009 18:45:30 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1746#comment-3339 Let's all turn back to our own parents and give them those extra-long hugs, those "just because" phone calls, those heart to heart conversations. The things we hope we have with our kids - when they get older - be sure to give them to our own parents, watching us growing older, growing further away, constantly having to let us go, and go, and go. Let’s all turn back to our own parents and give them those extra-long hugs, those “just because” phone calls, those heart to heart conversations. The things we hope we have with our kids – when they get older – be sure to give them to our own parents, watching us growing older, growing further away, constantly having to let us go, and go, and go.

]]> By: Michelle Hesse http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/11/12/if-you-love-somebody-set-them-free/comment-page-1/#comment-3338 Michelle Hesse Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:30:57 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1746#comment-3338 I am finding the letting go part hard right now. My girl is 3 and everything is "ME DO IT!" and I have to give in (if it is safe) and it is hard. She is my only child, the only one I could have...and she is growing up too quickly. I am finding the letting go part hard right now. My girl is 3 and everything is “ME DO IT!” and I have to give in (if it is safe) and it is hard. She is my only child, the only one I could have…and she is growing up too quickly.

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