Comments on: Adventures in Night Time Parenting http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: AP in the Hospital | Attachment Parenting International Blog http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-3578 AP in the Hospital | Attachment Parenting International Blog Mon, 21 Dec 2009 03:57:33 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-3578 [...] When he woke, he was disoriented  and became distraught fighting the restraints.  I tried my best to calm him and after asking the nurses, I breastfed him, leaning awkwardly over the side of his crib to do so.  He fell asleep and the surgeons came in to speak to us.  I told them that our son wasn’t used to a crib and it wasn’t easy to breastfeed him the way he was placed. They didn’t really say much back, I’m not sure they really knew what to do, but the nurse with them did. Our room was equipped with a small, narrow cot for one parent to spend the night on, but soon the nurse rolled a regular size hospital bed into the room, she removed the restraints, and once he woke again, I carried Oliver to the bed.  We were now able to cosleep and nurse. [...] [...] When he woke, he was disoriented  and became distraught fighting the restraints.  I tried my best to calm him and after asking the nurses, I breastfed him, leaning awkwardly over the side of his crib to do so.  He fell asleep and the surgeons came in to speak to us.  I told them that our son wasn’t used to a crib and it wasn’t easy to breastfeed him the way he was placed. They didn’t really say much back, I’m not sure they really knew what to do, but the nurse with them did. Our room was equipped with a small, narrow cot for one parent to spend the night on, but soon the nurse rolled a regular size hospital bed into the room, she removed the restraints, and once he woke again, I carried Oliver to the bed.  We were now able to cosleep and nurse. [...]

]]> By: mix http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-3163 mix Sun, 11 Oct 2009 00:31:29 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-3163 Just as pp - I cried when reading it. Was searching for an article with tipps on how to make them sleep better, longer ;-) We are going through one of those phases. Now I'm sure I can get through it without crying but with rocking and nursing... and nursing... and rocking.... Thank you! Just as pp – I cried when reading it. Was searching for an article with tipps on how to make them sleep better, longer ;-)
We are going through one of those phases. Now I’m sure I can get through it without crying but with rocking and nursing… and nursing… and rocking…. Thank you!

]]> By: Anj x http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-3124 Anj x Sun, 04 Oct 2009 10:01:41 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-3124 WOW, what a wonderful article, i cried whilst reading it. Just what i needed to read for reassurance. Thank you so much. From a very tired, happy Mum xx WOW, what a wonderful article, i cried whilst reading it. Just what i needed to read for reassurance. Thank you so much. From a very tired, happy Mum xx

]]> By: Helen Stevehs http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2919 Helen Stevehs Thu, 03 Sep 2009 23:09:43 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2919 Danielle, I know of many many mothers who simply don't tell people about the overnight waking of their child because they know they will get a flood of unhelpful advice. Congratulations to you for being able to see that some little people need closeness over night and that parenting is a day and night job. You know she won't be in your bed when she's in her teens and you will be able to look her in the eye and tell her you didn't leave her to 'cry it out' despite societal pressures, you allowed her the closeness she needed. Be sure you keep all these comments for her 21st birthday! I live in Australia and work in early parenting, I have a small book and DVD on how to help your baby if they WANT or NEED to move from your bed to their own, which sometimes happens. It is gently and considerate of the baby, endorsed by James McKenna and Dilys Daws in 2006. If you would like a look go to www.safesleepspace.com.au. Well done Danielle for not allowing others to parent for you, depite your extreme exhaustion, you still put your babies needs first, I congratulate you. With respect Helen Danielle,
I know of many many mothers who simply don’t tell people about the overnight waking of their child because they know they will get a flood of unhelpful advice. Congratulations to you for being able to see that some little people need closeness over night and that parenting is a day and night job. You know she won’t be in your bed when she’s in her teens and you will be able to look her in the eye and tell her you didn’t leave her to ‘cry it out’ despite societal pressures, you allowed her the closeness she needed. Be sure you keep all these comments for her 21st birthday!
I live in Australia and work in early parenting, I have a small book and DVD on how to help your baby if they WANT or NEED to move from your bed to their own, which sometimes happens. It is gently and considerate of the baby, endorsed by James McKenna and Dilys Daws in 2006. If you would like a look go to http://www.safesleepspace.com.au.
Well done Danielle for not allowing others to parent for you, depite your extreme exhaustion, you still put your babies needs first, I congratulate you.
With respect
Helen

]]> By: Rebekah http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2778 Rebekah Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:08:23 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2778 Thank you so much for this - I really, really needed this today. My beautiful, amazing and inquisitive, aware daughter will be one in a little under 2 weeks and has never slept through the night. She starts off in the crib, might go back for another hour or two and then is in with me (or us) depending on if hubby opts to sleep some where else for some rest. Her record least amount of waking was twice a few nights, and she has slept 4 hrs more often in the past 6 weeks (even 4 1.2 hrs once or twice - woo hoo!!) but usually it is 3 hrs at the beginning, and then every 1hr 1/2- 2 hrs after that. I can't do CIO! and did try the controlled crying for one or two nights around 7 mnths, when we had moved country and I was exhausted, but doesn't feel right. Naps are good, but nights - especially after 2am are restless & tiring. Yet, I have to be there for her, I can think of no other way. Thank you so, so much for the support and understanding! Thank you so much for this – I really, really needed this today. My beautiful, amazing and inquisitive, aware daughter will be one in a little under 2 weeks and has never slept through the night. She starts off in the crib, might go back for another hour or two and then is in with me (or us) depending on if hubby opts to sleep some where else for some rest. Her record least amount of waking was twice a few nights, and she has slept 4 hrs more often in the past 6 weeks (even 4 1.2 hrs once or twice – woo hoo!!) but usually it is 3 hrs at the beginning, and then every 1hr 1/2- 2 hrs after that. I can’t do CIO! and did try the controlled crying for one or two nights around 7 mnths, when we had moved country and I was exhausted, but doesn’t feel right. Naps are good, but nights – especially after 2am are restless & tiring. Yet, I have to be there for her, I can think of no other way. Thank you so, so much for the support and understanding!

]]> By: Nichole Alvarado http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2758 Nichole Alvarado Sun, 16 Aug 2009 03:02:33 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2758 I actually came across this article in an effort to find some advice on how to get my little guy (10mo.) to sleep for longer stretches (more than 2 hrs). I will not allow him to CIO and attempted night weaning for one night. He cried and fussed and slept even worse and then I got Mastitis - so I am not going to night wean. I love sleeping with him and know he wants and needs his mama. I just feel encouraged that I am not the only mom out there who even though sleep deprived still chooses to do what she feels is best for baby. And like you all said...in retrospect it is only a short time. I have to daily remind myself of this....one day I will want him back in my arms! I actually came across this article in an effort to find some advice on how to get my little guy (10mo.) to sleep for longer stretches (more than 2 hrs). I will not allow him to CIO and attempted night weaning for one night. He cried and fussed and slept even worse and then I got Mastitis – so I am not going to night wean. I love sleeping with him and know he wants and needs his mama. I just feel encouraged that I am not the only mom out there who even though sleep deprived still chooses to do what she feels is best for baby. And like you all said…in retrospect it is only a short time. I have to daily remind myself of this….one day I will want him back in my arms!

]]> By: m a m a :: m i l i e u http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2748 m a m a :: m i l i e u Sat, 15 Aug 2009 04:25:48 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2748 This post inspired me so much that I posted a blog about you, Danielle, and this wonderful article!! Thank you! xo This post inspired me so much that I posted a blog about you, Danielle, and this wonderful article!! Thank you! xo

]]> By: m a m a :: m i l i e u http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2746 m a m a :: m i l i e u Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:29:58 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2746 I second and third and fourth and so on all of the other mamas here. My little guy is only 8 mos. old but I cannot tell you how many other moms have told me just to let him CIO. The nights are very long and sometimes very very frustrating but it is so very helpful to know that there is a group of women out there who are going through the same things as I am. Being a parent doesn't stop when the sun goes down. Whenever, I think to myself that I can't do it anymore, I will remember this post and all of the wonderfully supportive comments. Thank you. :) I second and third and fourth and so on all of the other mamas here. My little guy is only 8 mos. old but I cannot tell you how many other moms have told me just to let him CIO.

The nights are very long and sometimes very very frustrating but it is so very helpful to know that there is a group of women out there who are going through the same things as I am.

Being a parent doesn’t stop when the sun goes down.

Whenever, I think to myself that I can’t do it anymore, I will remember this post and all of the wonderfully supportive comments.

Thank you. :)

]]> By: desiree fawn http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2745 desiree fawn Fri, 14 Aug 2009 22:37:20 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2745 I think it's unfourtunate that some people have this notion in their head that parenting stops at night, like it's a free time where your children are out of the way. For many parents, whose children sleep well, I'm sure it feels like this. You're doing a fabulous job sticking with what feels right to you!! Good job mama!! I think it’s unfourtunate that some people have this notion in their head that parenting stops at night, like it’s a free time where your children are out of the way. For many parents, whose children sleep well, I’m sure it feels like this.
You’re doing a fabulous job sticking with what feels right to you!!
Good job mama!!

]]> By: Angie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/08/13/adventuresinnighttimeparenting/comment-page-1/#comment-2742 Angie Fri, 14 Aug 2009 19:30:51 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=1225#comment-2742 I am always intrigued by this. I am on baby #4 and have never had a child who has slept through the night, and barely takes naps. My oldest is 17 and she had trouble sleeping through the night until she was maybe 5. We are thankful that Waldorf came into our life and brought the concept of rhythm, and that helps, but I am ever-so-convinced that babies are wise and not to be blamed for "the sleeping problem." The problem with sleeping(or a child's lack of sleeping) is that mothers are not supported by an extended community to help them have naps, breaks, down time, etc. We do family bed and i get much more sleep that way. I know it doesn't work for everyone. Man, I'm all worked up now...I should go blog about it! haha I am always intrigued by this. I am on baby #4 and have never had a child who has slept through the night, and barely takes naps. My oldest is 17 and she had trouble sleeping through the night until she was maybe 5. We are thankful that Waldorf came into our life and brought the concept of rhythm, and that helps, but I am ever-so-convinced that babies are wise and not to be blamed for “the sleeping problem.” The problem with sleeping(or a child’s lack of sleeping) is that mothers are not supported by an extended community to help them have naps, breaks, down time, etc. We do family bed and i get much more sleep that way. I know it doesn’t work for everyone.
Man, I’m all worked up now…I should go blog about it! haha

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