Comments on: Super Mom Retires http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/16/super-mom-retires/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Looking Back: API Speaks in 2009 | Attachment Parenting International Blog http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/16/super-mom-retires/comment-page-1/#comment-3622 Looking Back: API Speaks in 2009 | Attachment Parenting International Blog Mon, 28 Dec 2009 11:05:42 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=816#comment-3622 [...] Super Mom Retires When I was a younger mommy and parenting my first two children, I worried a lot about whether I was meeting expectations.  Of course, my first priority was my children and their well-being, but right after that was making sure that I gave the impression of being confident, completely competent, and like I was the type of mom who could do it all.  I adhered to the belief that I could have clean, well-dressed, well-behaved children who were a joy, all while being perfectly coiffed, stylishly dressed and madly successful.  All I had to do was work hard enough, put in enough effort, and always be doing something.  I could have it all. [...] [...] Super Mom Retires When I was a younger mommy and parenting my first two children, I worried a lot about whether I was meeting expectations.  Of course, my first priority was my children and their well-being, but right after that was making sure that I gave the impression of being confident, completely competent, and like I was the type of mom who could do it all.  I adhered to the belief that I could have clean, well-dressed, well-behaved children who were a joy, all while being perfectly coiffed, stylishly dressed and madly successful.  All I had to do was work hard enough, put in enough effort, and always be doing something.  I could have it all. [...]

]]> By: Following The Principles: Ensure Safe Sleep | Attachment Parenting International Blog http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/16/super-mom-retires/comment-page-1/#comment-3418 Following The Principles: Ensure Safe Sleep | Attachment Parenting International Blog Thu, 26 Nov 2009 17:52:06 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=816#comment-3418 [...] much smaller space which called for some pretty big upheavals for our family. We found ourselves sharing the small master bedroom with our two girls. Cozy…but not the haven I had hoped to create in order to provide myself [...] [...] much smaller space which called for some pretty big upheavals for our family. We found ourselves sharing the small master bedroom with our two girls. Cozy…but not the haven I had hoped to create in order to provide myself [...]

]]> By: State-of-the-Heart Parenting » Ensure Safe Sleep http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/16/super-mom-retires/comment-page-1/#comment-3172 State-of-the-Heart Parenting » Ensure Safe Sleep Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:53:08 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=816#comment-3172 [...] much smaller space which called for some pretty big upheavals for our family. We found ourselves sharing the small master bedroom with our two girls. Cozy…but not the haven I had hoped to create in order to provide myself [...] [...] much smaller space which called for some pretty big upheavals for our family. We found ourselves sharing the small master bedroom with our two girls. Cozy…but not the haven I had hoped to create in order to provide myself [...]

]]> By: Stacy (mama-om) http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/16/super-mom-retires/comment-page-1/#comment-2318 Stacy (mama-om) Thu, 21 May 2009 03:27:43 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=816#comment-2318 You're a great writer! Well, AP has meant a much dirtier house than we used to have. The amount of time and energy we spend on our kids leaves little time for all the other activities in our lives. I will always choose to meditate, write, or socialize in my "free" time over cleaning. Sometimes this causes some real angst (a messier house IS harder to live in) but I remind myself that "this is what not-doing-it-all" looks like. In fact, it's my new recent mantra... For example, on Thursday nights, I attend a meditation group. I don't get home until after the kids' bedtimes, so they are a little amped up and waiting for me. We nurse right away, but it takes a while for them to settle and fall asleep and then we inevitably sleep in the next day. Then I run around the next morning cleaning up and making lunch and trying to squeeze in a shower before the babysitter arrives. Last week, I realized, "wow, this is what not doing it all looks like," and it was a huge relief. I just laughed at myself, recognized the trade-offs I'm making, and felt grateful. Especially for the babysitter, who plays with the kids while I get some work done (which doesn't include cleaning :-) You’re a great writer!

Well, AP has meant a much dirtier house than we used to have. The amount of time and energy we spend on our kids leaves little time for all the other activities in our lives. I will always choose to meditate, write, or socialize in my “free” time over cleaning. Sometimes this causes some real angst (a messier house IS harder to live in) but I remind myself that “this is what not-doing-it-all” looks like. In fact, it’s my new recent mantra…

For example, on Thursday nights, I attend a meditation group. I don’t get home until after the kids’ bedtimes, so they are a little amped up and waiting for me. We nurse right away, but it takes a while for them to settle and fall asleep and then we inevitably sleep in the next day. Then I run around the next morning cleaning up and making lunch and trying to squeeze in a shower before the babysitter arrives. Last week, I realized, “wow, this is what not doing it all looks like,” and it was a huge relief. I just laughed at myself, recognized the trade-offs I’m making, and felt grateful. Especially for the babysitter, who plays with the kids while I get some work done (which doesn’t include cleaning :-)

]]> By: michele http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/04/16/super-mom-retires/comment-page-1/#comment-2255 michele Mon, 20 Apr 2009 16:03:10 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=816#comment-2255 I love this! It really made my day. We have a 3 year old son, who does not have his own bed because he sleeps with us. I proudly tell anyone who asks why he does not have his own bed! Hooray for AP and co-sleeping and not caring what other people think is right or wrong. I love this! It really made my day. We have a 3 year old son, who does not have his own bed because he sleeps with us. I proudly tell anyone who asks why he does not have his own bed! Hooray for AP and co-sleeping and not caring what other people think is right or wrong.

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