Comments on: They Swam and They Swam All Over the Dam http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/03/10/they-swam-and-they-swam-all-over-the-dam/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: TwinToddlersDad http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/03/10/they-swam-and-they-swam-all-over-the-dam/comment-page-1/#comment-1740 TwinToddlersDad Tue, 10 Mar 2009 23:45:19 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=702#comment-1740 I really enjoyed reading your post. Kudos to you for really "listening" to your child and not forcing him to eat fish when he did not want to. In our zeal to have our kids get good nutrition (omega acids and so on), sometimes we forget that they may not really want to eat a particular food item at that time. Later on it might be perfectly ok. As a parent, it is really quite hard to tune ourselves to really listen to our kids, because we feel we know it all. Guess what, we don't know it all because when it comes to feelings and sensitivities, every child is different. And as it turns out in our case, we have boy/girl twins who have their very different personalities and preferences. So we work hard to tune ourselves to both at the same time. Does it mean that you should let your child eat whatever he wants whenever he wants? Clearly no, but there is no use getting into a power struggle in the moment. You can correct undesirable habits (candy, junk foods etc) slowly by setting an example yourself and then by positive reinforcement when he makes more desirable choices. Cheers! I really enjoyed reading your post. Kudos to you for really “listening” to your child and not forcing him to eat fish when he did not want to. In our zeal to have our kids get good nutrition (omega acids and so on), sometimes we forget that they may not really want to eat a particular food item at that time. Later on it might be perfectly ok. As a parent, it is really quite hard to tune ourselves to really listen to our kids, because we feel we know it all. Guess what, we don’t know it all because when it comes to feelings and sensitivities, every child is different. And as it turns out in our case, we have boy/girl twins who have their very different personalities and preferences. So we work hard to tune ourselves to both at the same time.

Does it mean that you should let your child eat whatever he wants whenever he wants? Clearly no, but there is no use getting into a power struggle in the moment. You can correct undesirable habits (candy, junk foods etc) slowly by setting an example yourself and then by positive reinforcement when he makes more desirable choices.

Cheers!

]]> By: Niecey http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/03/10/they-swam-and-they-swam-all-over-the-dam/comment-page-1/#comment-1736 Niecey Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:11:17 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=702#comment-1736 This made me tear up. I'm vegetarian too, and 2 of my children have made that choice too. The younger two are too little to understand and my DH and I haven't quite figured out what to do with that. I don't cook meat at home, but in terms of, eating out or at someone's house etc. Thanks for this precious post. This made me tear up. I’m vegetarian too, and 2 of my children have made that choice too. The younger two are too little to understand and my DH and I haven’t quite figured out what to do with that. I don’t cook meat at home, but in terms of, eating out or at someone’s house etc.
Thanks for this precious post.

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