Comments on: Weaning in the Context of AP http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/ Thu, 17 May 2012 16:35:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: lucy http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-7720 lucy Thu, 25 Aug 2011 03:05:59 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-7720 I appreciate all of your gentle comments and insight into such a delicate matter. My daughter is nearly two and still nursing alot. We co-sleep and so she will routinly roll over and either latch on or wake up for milk. What is more exhausting is that she has never slept through a nap and is very difficult to go to sleep at night and must always be nursed to sleep, I have become a pacifer to her and I don't know how to wean her from this. I appreciate your advice very much. I appreciate all of your gentle comments and insight into such a delicate matter. My daughter is nearly two and still nursing alot. We co-sleep and so she will routinly roll over and either latch on or wake up for milk. What is more exhausting is that she has never slept through a nap and is very difficult to go to sleep at night and must always be nursed to sleep, I have become a pacifer to her and I don’t know how to wean her from this. I appreciate your advice very much.

]]> By: Sharon http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-5590 Sharon Sat, 09 Oct 2010 15:56:44 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-5590 This was a relief to read. My 10 month old nurses around the clock and several times during the night. AND we are trying to fix a bad latch habit. All of that and lack of sleep has had me feeling resentful and at the end of my rope, even though I do not want to wean before 2. Although he is technically still an infant, he's not a tiny little baby anymore and is becoming more toddler-ish every day. He still needs the bulk of his nutrition from nursing but he doesn't take in much milk at all sessions and I feel it would make a huge difference to cut back to 7-8 sessions a day instead of the 9-11 we are at, and especially get down to 1-2 at night instead of 3-5... This was a relief to read. My 10 month old nurses around the clock and several times during the night. AND we are trying to fix a bad latch habit. All of that and lack of sleep has had me feeling resentful and at the end of my rope, even though I do not want to wean before 2. Although he is technically still an infant, he’s not a tiny little baby anymore and is becoming more toddler-ish every day. He still needs the bulk of his nutrition from nursing but he doesn’t take in much milk at all sessions and I feel it would make a huge difference to cut back to 7-8 sessions a day instead of the 9-11 we are at, and especially get down to 1-2 at night instead of 3-5…

]]> By: The Slow Road to Weaning | Attachment Parenting International Blog http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-5563 The Slow Road to Weaning | Attachment Parenting International Blog Fri, 08 Oct 2010 12:55:34 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-5563 [...] took an active role in Hannah’s weaning when we reached a point where the relationship wasn’t working for me. I started with partial weaning, using techniques like “don’t offer, don’t [...] [...] took an active role in Hannah’s weaning when we reached a point where the relationship wasn’t working for me. I started with partial weaning, using techniques like “don’t offer, don’t [...]

]]> By: Sonya Feher http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1645 Sonya Feher Mon, 23 Feb 2009 04:49:07 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1645 When I was prepping for a meeting of our S. Austin API Chapter, I created a handout on ways to encourage weaning including nighttime weaning. You can find it at http://southaustinapi.org/ by clicking on the Topic Handout link and then on Weaning. When I was prepping for a meeting of our S. Austin API Chapter, I created a handout on ways to encourage weaning including nighttime weaning. You can find it at http://southaustinapi.org/ by clicking on the Topic Handout link and then on Weaning.

]]> By: stella http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1623 stella Sun, 15 Feb 2009 01:06:50 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1623 I have started the weaning process when my son was 1 year old. We cut a few feeding throughout the day. He then turned two and I made strides to cut it to just mornings and nights. Now he will be three and I'm working on those two. But all of sudden I'm getting all these opinions from my family and really harsh criticism about he breastfeeding and being almost three. I resent it and feel attacked. I have started the weaning process when my son was 1 year old. We cut a few feeding throughout the day. He then turned two and I made strides to cut it to just mornings and nights.
Now he will be three and I’m working on those two.
But all of sudden I’m getting all these opinions from my family and really harsh criticism about he breastfeeding and being almost three.
I resent it and feel attacked.

]]> By: lamaya http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1622 lamaya Sat, 14 Feb 2009 10:27:45 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1622 wow.... aaahahhhhh.. has been great to hear the thoughts... though i would love to read more... i am have been rearing my child in a what seems like very isolating place in south america and i ned more information and support!!.. my daughter just turned one and i started night weaning her as i was feeling resentful and my relationship was falling aprt with my partner.. i needed some time to myself though it has been hard to find information on good techniques... can anyone help?? wow…. aaahahhhhh.. has been great to hear the thoughts… though i would love to read more… i am have been rearing my child in a what seems like very isolating place in south america and i ned more information and support!!.. my daughter just turned one and i started night weaning her as i was feeling resentful and my relationship was falling aprt with my partner.. i needed some time to myself though it has been hard to find information on good techniques… can anyone help??

]]> By: The Rudest Comments I Have Ever Gotten About My Parenting Style http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1618 The Rudest Comments I Have Ever Gotten About My Parenting Style Tue, 10 Feb 2009 11:09:43 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1618 [...] Weaning in the Context of AP (attachmentparenting.org) [...] [...] Weaning in the Context of AP (attachmentparenting.org) [...]

]]> By: Jaimee http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1607 Jaimee Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:23:09 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1607 Thank you for this insightful post. I had a lot of mixed feelings about partially weaning my daughter. We nightweaned around 18 months and cut way back on day time nursing around 2 years. With the nightweaning, I had guilt. Was it too early? Did I really need to do it? What would my other AP friends think? But I did need to do it for my family. We needed our nights back to regain balance. Now that she's totally nightweaned, she sleeps through the night many nights and has started to eat more solid foods. Once we took the plunge, I found out that many of my AP friends were having similar thoughts. We were able to discuss our progress and feelings, lending support to each other. Around her second birthday, I realized I needed to make another change. I was losing weight and getting sick too frequently. My body was having trouble keeping up with my nursing toddler. I was also feeling resentment toward our frequent nursing sessions and I knew that I was sending her mixed message. So we cut down to just naptime and bedtime sessions. What a difference this made! Now she comes to me for hugs and cuddles instead of whining about more nursing. She takes longer naps, eats more food, and just seems happier. It's hard to find that balance, but I am happy to report that there truly are many ways to nurse your child and they don't all involve the breast. Thank you for this insightful post. I had a lot of mixed feelings about partially weaning my daughter. We nightweaned around 18 months and cut way back on day time nursing around 2 years.

With the nightweaning, I had guilt. Was it too early? Did I really need to do it? What would my other AP friends think? But I did need to do it for my family. We needed our nights back to regain balance. Now that she’s totally nightweaned, she sleeps through the night many nights and has started to eat more solid foods. Once we took the plunge, I found out that many of my AP friends were having similar thoughts. We were able to discuss our progress and feelings, lending support to each other.

Around her second birthday, I realized I needed to make another change. I was losing weight and getting sick too frequently. My body was having trouble keeping up with my nursing toddler. I was also feeling resentment toward our frequent nursing sessions and I knew that I was sending her mixed message. So we cut down to just naptime and bedtime sessions. What a difference this made! Now she comes to me for hugs and cuddles instead of whining about more nursing. She takes longer naps, eats more food, and just seems happier.

It’s hard to find that balance, but I am happy to report that there truly are many ways to nurse your child and they don’t all involve the breast.

]]> By: rhonda http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1605 rhonda Wed, 04 Feb 2009 02:43:43 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1605 there will be tears no matter when you do it. listen to your mama voice, respond with love and compassion, and before you know it you will move on to the next challenge of motherhood. thanks sonya for your thoughtful words and insight! there will be tears no matter when you do it. listen to your mama voice, respond with love and compassion, and before you know it you will move on to the next challenge of motherhood.

thanks sonya for your thoughtful words and insight!

]]> By: Justine http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2009/01/27/weaning-in-the-context-of-ap/comment-page-1/#comment-1601 Justine Sat, 31 Jan 2009 07:55:47 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=661#comment-1601 If you are thinking about weaning because things need a change, then try reading the book Mothering Your Nursing Toddler by Norma Jane Bumgarten (it is available through the La Leche League amongst other places). This book really helped me with the transition between infant nursing and toddler nursing. They really are two different types of relationships. Once your child becomes a toddler, the nursing relationship becomes more of a two-way street. There is room for some gentle negotiation, and your child can start to articulate what is important to him or her about nursing. I night-weaned my oldest when she was nearly 2 1/2 because I was pregnant and it was just not comfortable anymore. That went fairly smoothly -- but not always. Anyway, Norma Jane's book was for me, a big help in many ways, but mostly in reassuring me that I was able to do the right thing for both me and my child in a gentle and loving way. I think the reason I feel comfortable with her still nursing (at 3 1/2 and with a 7 month old brother) is because I was able to redefine our nursing relationship in a way that works for us both. That said, if she had it her way, she would still nurse day and night! If you are thinking about weaning because things need a change, then try reading the book Mothering Your Nursing Toddler by Norma Jane Bumgarten (it is available through the La Leche League amongst other places). This book really helped me with the transition between infant nursing and toddler nursing. They really are two different types of relationships. Once your child becomes a toddler, the nursing relationship becomes more of a two-way street. There is room for some gentle negotiation, and your child can start to articulate what is important to him or her about nursing.

I night-weaned my oldest when she was nearly 2 1/2 because I was pregnant and it was just not comfortable anymore. That went fairly smoothly — but not always. Anyway, Norma Jane’s book was for me, a big help in many ways, but mostly in reassuring me that I was able to do the right thing for both me and my child in a gentle and loving way. I think the reason I feel comfortable with her still nursing (at 3 1/2 and with a 7 month old brother) is because I was able to redefine our nursing relationship in a way that works for us both.

That said, if she had it her way, she would still nurse day and night!

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