Comments on: Nighttime parenting http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Lauren http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-3189 Lauren Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:06:46 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-3189 I am in the process of reading "The No-cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers" and it has some very helpful info on this topic! It is already starting to work for my daughter. She still nurses to sleep at 13 months. I am in the process of reading “The No-cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers” and it has some very helpful info on this topic! It is already starting to work for my daughter. She still nurses to sleep at 13 months.

]]> By: API Speaks http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1919 API Speaks Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:44:57 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1919 Oh, Kacie, I hear you! I remember the first time Lily fell asleep in our bed and I was able to get up again--she was almost six months old! Matt & I were so amazed that we stood outside our bedroom door waiting for her to wake up again for about a full thirty minutes before we "believed" she was really asleep. I know it's hard to parent them to sleep so intensively at this age, but remember that they got used to going to sleep in motion and upright (or upside down as the case may have been) in the womb and not flat on their backs. So it takes them a little while to learn how to do it on the outside. One thing that worked with our older son from about your child's age is rocking/nursing him until he was very drowsy but not asleep and then putting him down. I used to keep a hand on his back so he'd know I was there and then, once he was asleep, I could slowly remove my hand and slip out of the room. Doesn't work with all babies (my son is very mellow and that certainly would never have worked with my daughter), but it's worth a try....Good luck! Oh, Kacie, I hear you! I remember the first time Lily fell asleep in our bed and I was able to get up again–she was almost six months old! Matt & I were so amazed that we stood outside our bedroom door waiting for her to wake up again for about a full thirty minutes before we “believed” she was really asleep. I know it’s hard to parent them to sleep so intensively at this age, but remember that they got used to going to sleep in motion and upright (or upside down as the case may have been) in the womb and not flat on their backs. So it takes them a little while to learn how to do it on the outside. One thing that worked with our older son from about your child’s age is rocking/nursing him until he was very drowsy but not asleep and then putting him down. I used to keep a hand on his back so he’d know I was there and then, once he was asleep, I could slowly remove my hand and slip out of the room. Doesn’t work with all babies (my son is very mellow and that certainly would never have worked with my daughter), but it’s worth a try….Good luck!

]]> By: Kacie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1918 Kacie Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:14:44 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1918 I'm working on getting my 3.5 month-old on better sleeping habits. I don't care if he sleeps through the night or not -- I just want to make sure he gets enough good sleep throughout the day. I would like him to be able to fall asleep laying flat on a bed or his crib. Right now, he's sleeping in his swing because he's been up for 4 hours and he's overtired and I knew it would conk him out. Pretty soon, he'll be too big for the swing, so I want him to be able to fall asleep without it soon! I’m working on getting my 3.5 month-old on better sleeping habits. I don’t care if he sleeps through the night or not — I just want to make sure he gets enough good sleep throughout the day.

I would like him to be able to fall asleep laying flat on a bed or his crib. Right now, he’s sleeping in his swing because he’s been up for 4 hours and he’s overtired and I knew it would conk him out. Pretty soon, he’ll be too big for the swing, so I want him to be able to fall asleep without it soon!

]]> By: Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1904 Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International Mon, 06 Apr 2009 16:34:25 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1904 [...] in November I had written about night-time parenting. I had asked how the situation is in other AP homes. Well, things have changed quite a lot since [...] [...] in November I had written about night-time parenting. I had asked how the situation is in other AP homes. Well, things have changed quite a lot since [...]

]]> By: DZ http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1588 DZ Wed, 21 Jan 2009 01:59:05 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1588 I have many many praises for attachment parenting. I nursed my son until he was 2 1/2, have always listened and attended to his needs, and have coslept with him since the day he came home from the hospital. (He's now 3 y. 4 months old). But I have to admit and I think it's very important that new parents to attachment parenting have to be aware that cosleeping children will be cosleeping children for many years. My 3 year old is very dependent upon us being in the bed with him and cannot fall asleep on his own. Although I follow most everything that attachment parenting promotes, letting a child fall learn to fall asleep on his or her own at least by age 2 is highly recommended. I am a very tired mom of 2 boys who fears that I may have sleep (or non-sleep) issues for the next several years. This takes a great toll on my older 10 year old son for he is forever waiting for us to help his little brother fall asleep at night so he can have some quality time with us. I can't imagine if I had more than 2 children, it would be very difficult to juggle. I have many many praises for attachment parenting. I nursed my son until he was 2 1/2, have always listened and attended to his needs, and have coslept with him since the day he came home from the hospital. (He’s now 3 y. 4 months old).
But I have to admit and I think it’s very important that new parents to attachment parenting have to be aware that cosleeping children will be cosleeping children for many years. My 3 year old is very dependent upon us being in the bed with him and cannot fall asleep on his own. Although I follow most everything that attachment parenting promotes, letting a child fall learn to fall asleep on his or her own at least by age 2 is highly recommended. I am a very tired mom of 2 boys who fears that I may have sleep (or non-sleep) issues for the next several years. This takes a great toll on my older 10 year old son for he is forever waiting for us to help his little brother fall asleep at night so he can have some quality time with us. I can’t imagine if I had more than 2 children, it would be very difficult to juggle.

]]> By: Justine http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1356 Justine Fri, 19 Dec 2008 04:28:37 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1356 I still have a 5 1/2 year old who does not regularly sleep through the night. Sleeping is just not a big priority for her :) As a baby and toddler we did the nursing, the slinging, the rocking, the walking around, the massages, the stories, the singing...and finally reached a point where she was old enough to stay in bed on her own without needing us (and not getting up to wander around). There was no "magic trick" that did it, she just had to reach that point and we had to be patient. I hope that we made it easier for her to do that by providing her with the years of loving, responsive night time parenting that we did. Perhaps without night time parenting she might have given up and finally slept, but at what cost? She very occasionally has night terrors and scary nightmares...i can only think that perhaps helping her at night prevented them from being worse and will help her to stop having them sooner. I still have a 5 1/2 year old who does not regularly sleep through the night. Sleeping is just not a big priority for her :) As a baby and toddler we did the nursing, the slinging, the rocking, the walking around, the massages, the stories, the singing…and finally reached a point where she was old enough to stay in bed on her own without needing us (and not getting up to wander around). There was no “magic trick” that did it, she just had to reach that point and we had to be patient. I hope that we made it easier for her to do that by providing her with the years of loving, responsive night time parenting that we did. Perhaps without night time parenting she might have given up and finally slept, but at what cost? She very occasionally has night terrors and scary nightmares…i can only think that perhaps helping her at night prevented them from being worse and will help her to stop having them sooner.

]]> By: Stephanie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1301 Stephanie Wed, 03 Dec 2008 14:40:00 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1301 Can anyone help answer questions for nannies working for parents following the attachment parenting philosophy? A nanny friend just interviewed with a mother who follows the philosophy and she's worried about nap time and bottle feeding since she isn't the mother and doesn't want to nap with the child and obviously cannot breast feed the baby. If you have advice for nannies please respond at: http://bestnannynewsletter.blogspot.com Can anyone help answer questions for nannies working for parents following the attachment parenting philosophy?

A nanny friend just interviewed with a mother who follows the philosophy and she’s worried about nap time and bottle feeding since she isn’t the mother and doesn’t want to nap with the child and obviously cannot breast feed the baby.

If you have advice for nannies please respond at:
http://bestnannynewsletter.blogspot.com

]]> By: Cristy http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1295 Cristy Mon, 01 Dec 2008 23:12:37 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1295 I commented over at your site Isil, but thought that I should join in here too. I recently night-weaned Lily (who is almost 21 months old) and it was so much easier than I had expected. However, I did wait until she seemed ready. She still feeds to sleep (for both her nap and at night), but the feeds have gotten a lot shorter lately (10-15 minutes often). It wasn't long ago that they often went for over an hour, which I found hard sometimes. I commented over at your site Isil, but thought that I should join in here too. I recently night-weaned Lily (who is almost 21 months old) and it was so much easier than I had expected. However, I did wait until she seemed ready.

She still feeds to sleep (for both her nap and at night), but the feeds have gotten a lot shorter lately (10-15 minutes often). It wasn’t long ago that they often went for over an hour, which I found hard sometimes.

]]> By: Shen-Li http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1294 Shen-Li Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:30:18 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1294 My son 22 months and he also needs help getting to sleep - rocking and being nursed. Unfortunately, he refuses to get into a sling so I have to carry him. What I've noticed recently is that it's been gettin harder and harder to get him to sleep and I suspect maybe he is trying to drop his afternoon nap. I know it seems a bit early but I've been checking up some forums and plenty of other Mums have toddlers who stopped napping by two. On days when I drop the afternoon nap, he sleeps earlier at night and it is a LOT easier to get him to sleep. I don't have to rock him or nurse him for ages like I normally do (yes, like your case - half an hour is very lucky). My son 22 months and he also needs help getting to sleep – rocking and being nursed. Unfortunately, he refuses to get into a sling so I have to carry him.

What I’ve noticed recently is that it’s been gettin harder and harder to get him to sleep and I suspect maybe he is trying to drop his afternoon nap. I know it seems a bit early but I’ve been checking up some forums and plenty of other Mums have toddlers who stopped napping by two.

On days when I drop the afternoon nap, he sleeps earlier at night and it is a LOT easier to get him to sleep. I don’t have to rock him or nurse him for ages like I normally do (yes, like your case – half an hour is very lucky).

]]> By: When Does a Toddler Stop Napping Completely? | Babylicious http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/30/nighttime-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1293 When Does a Toddler Stop Napping Completely? | Babylicious Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:24:08 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=541#comment-1293 [...] Although I don’t usually mind the rocking, sometimes, I can’t help wondering as Isil does of her own child - when will Gavin be able to fall asleep without needing to be rocked or [...] [...] Although I don’t usually mind the rocking, sometimes, I can’t help wondering as Isil does of her own child – when will Gavin be able to fall asleep without needing to be rocked or [...]

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