Comments on: Shouldn’t We Invest More Thought In Our Parenting Than Planning Our Next Vacation? http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/10/shouldn%e2%80%99t-we-invest-more-thought-in-our-parenting-than-planning-our-next-vacation/ Thu, 17 May 2012 16:35:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: TwinToddlersDad http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/10/shouldn%e2%80%99t-we-invest-more-thought-in-our-parenting-than-planning-our-next-vacation/comment-page-1/#comment-1256 TwinToddlersDad Mon, 17 Nov 2008 02:00:30 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=386#comment-1256 I think you raise some interesting points. I enjoyed reading your post. I don't think it is an "Either-Or" situation. Just because you need to spend time planning your vacation, or buy a car, does not mean that it is not possible to ALSO spend time on parenting. Both are important. Unless you are planning to leave the child behind with grandma when you go for your vacation, you need to spend time planning it well because your child is going to be a part of it. We live in a world of choices. So much so that we are constantly having to juggle and make decisions. At times it can be overwhelming. To an outsider, it might appear that parents are somehow ignoring their children because they are spending far too much time on thinking about - and doing things - that are important to them. I do not believe so; I think that at heart, every parent is concerned about the well-being of their children. I have learned not to judge because parenting is a very personal thing. I agree with you that parents should make informed choices. And of course, ultimately the buck stops with them. I am convinced that most parents do take this responsibility very seriously. They may "give up" once in a while if they cannot keep up. But over the long run, they are "programmed" to raise their kids to the best of their abilities. I think you raise some interesting points. I enjoyed reading your post.

I don’t think it is an “Either-Or” situation. Just because you need to spend time planning your vacation, or buy a car, does not mean that it is not possible to ALSO spend time on parenting. Both are important.

Unless you are planning to leave the child behind with grandma when you go for your vacation, you need to spend time planning it well because your child is going to be a part of it.

We live in a world of choices. So much so that we are constantly having to juggle and make decisions. At times it can be overwhelming. To an outsider, it might appear that parents are somehow ignoring their children because they are spending far too much time on thinking about – and doing things – that are important to them. I do not believe so; I think that at heart, every parent is concerned about the well-being of their children. I have learned not to judge because parenting is a very personal thing.

I agree with you that parents should make informed choices. And of course, ultimately the buck stops with them. I am convinced that most parents do take this responsibility very seriously. They may “give up” once in a while if they cannot keep up. But over the long run, they are “programmed” to raise their kids to the best of their abilities.

]]> By: justine http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/11/10/shouldn%e2%80%99t-we-invest-more-thought-in-our-parenting-than-planning-our-next-vacation/comment-page-1/#comment-1234 justine Tue, 11 Nov 2008 22:50:55 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=386#comment-1234 Brava, Jennifer! Displaying intellectual rigor in all aspects of our lives (and our children's') is indeed an important responsibility...and one that many are not confident to take on b/c they have been led to believe that the "experts" have their best interests at heart. I l often consult with "experts" to gain new information, but my hubby and I are the only "experts" when it comes to making the actual choices. I would rather be accused of over thinking a situation than live with the consequence of having over reacted...or worse, under reacted! Thank you for sharing. Brava, Jennifer! Displaying intellectual rigor in all aspects of our lives (and our children’s') is indeed an important responsibility…and one that many are not confident to take on b/c they have been led to believe that the “experts” have their best interests at heart. I l often consult with “experts” to gain new information, but my hubby and I are the only “experts” when it comes to making the actual choices. I would rather be accused of over thinking a situation than live with the consequence of having over reacted…or worse, under reacted!

Thank you for sharing.

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