Comments on: It’s Not Called Permissive Parenting

By: Attachment parenting is not… | PhD in Parenting

Attachment parenting is not… | PhD in Parenting — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 03:55:58 +0000

[...] Attachment parenting is not permissive parenting. [...]

By: jane

jane — Fri, 01 May 2009 09:32:50 +0000

i would like to add, that i am going to buy a book recommended on this website:

Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent and Energetic – by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

the description fairly sums up my son!

and i think i would like to try and find some new ways of approaching things ….

By: jane

jane — Fri, 01 May 2009 09:01:12 +0000

when my son was very small, discipline was not an issue in my attachment parenting. whatever he needed he usually got e.g. breastmilk, my attention if at all possible. of course he needed very little except these most basic things. he also seemed to understand that what i was doing was always in his best interests and he trusted me, so i never had tantrums (well, once).

however, now he is a strapping, confident 6 year old and discipline is an issue! i just get by, but often i do have to fall back on ‘doing chores’ as a kind of positive punishment. sometimes i get angry and shout, or send him to his room for a while. however, i do have a chronic illness, and for this reason, it can be harder to keep my cool. anyway, v. interested in this subject, still looking creatively for solutions.

By: Christian AP Mama

Christian AP Mama — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 22:18:09 +0000

I’m glad you wrote this post. I parent the way my parents raised me, without the spanking, in a great big pot of love and choices but with very clear limits. I don’t thnk you can teach your child much by letting your child just do whatever they want. Passing down morals and values means you have to have some limits somewhere. That’s what I like about API including Positive Discipline in their Eight Prinicples of Parenting. Discipline, done in a loving manner meant to teach, is promoting attachment. Letting your kids do whatever they want whenever they want it seems like the best thing short-term, but in the long run, they’re going to have major troubles in life because they’ll be selfish, won’t respect authority, and won’t be compassionate and empathetic adults. You’re right, people seem to get stuck on it’s either child-centered or parent-centered and more really need to look at a balance between the two. Great post!!!

By: Sommer-Green and Clean Mom

Sommer-Green and Clean Mom — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 02:40:46 +0000

I’m a Love and Logic Fan. I like this post though. I have caught myself saying the word, “bad” or you are being “bad” . My husband is worse with this word. I make sure I tell my son or daughter that they are making some “bad” choices but we love them. We just don’t like what they are doing. What can do about that? Why are they doing this? What can help them? I know conversation is important but there is a limit. My four year is going to be a lawyer and if I kept chatting with him about a bad choice…he’d win! He’s good. So I have to remember who is the parent sometimes too!