Comments on: The Power of Having Been Parented Well http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/09/20/the-power-of-having-been-parented-well/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:11:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Christian AP Mama http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/09/20/the-power-of-having-been-parented-well/comment-page-1/#comment-1114 Christian AP Mama Fri, 26 Sep 2008 22:30:05 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=329#comment-1114 I was blessed with wonderful parents. The only catch is that my mom spanked, and I decided to abandon this hand-me-down parenting technique once I read all the research/materials related to AP. While learning to not spank was hard, my mom (who did spank us) is very supportive so she's been a big help. Overall, parenting comes naturally and easy to me. But it's not the same for my husband. His parents left some dark marks in the way he parents, and he finds it not at all easy or natural. It can be difficult for me to have patience with him sometimes; that's something I've found is harder to learn than to not spank! I wish there was an easy way to teach parents who weren't raised with AP how to adopt those Principles, like a9-step guide or something, because sometimes even if you really want to, it's still easy to fall back to the "old ways" of thinking in times of stress -- and during those times of stress, well, that's when AP works the best. I was blessed with wonderful parents. The only catch is that my mom spanked, and I decided to abandon this hand-me-down parenting technique once I read all the research/materials related to AP. While learning to not spank was hard, my mom (who did spank us) is very supportive so she’s been a big help.

Overall, parenting comes naturally and easy to me. But it’s not the same for my husband. His parents left some dark marks in the way he parents, and he finds it not at all easy or natural. It can be difficult for me to have patience with him sometimes; that’s something I’ve found is harder to learn than to not spank!

I wish there was an easy way to teach parents who weren’t raised with AP how to adopt those Principles, like a9-step guide or something, because sometimes even if you really want to, it’s still easy to fall back to the “old ways” of thinking in times of stress — and during those times of stress, well, that’s when AP works the best.

]]> By: Jessica http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/09/20/the-power-of-having-been-parented-well/comment-page-1/#comment-1106 Jessica Thu, 25 Sep 2008 11:28:57 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=329#comment-1106 Thank you for sharing this story! It was quite inspiring. I truly hope that together my husband and I can raise our daughter to be a good parent herself. It feels good to think that the gentle parenting we rely on can influence generations to come. Thank you for sharing this story! It was quite inspiring. I truly hope that together my husband and I can raise our daughter to be a good parent herself. It feels good to think that the gentle parenting we rely on can influence generations to come.

]]> By: Theresa http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/09/20/the-power-of-having-been-parented-well/comment-page-1/#comment-1096 Theresa Mon, 22 Sep 2008 18:09:31 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=329#comment-1096 Share some of their strategies! Share some of their strategies!

]]> By: Naomifrederickmd http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/09/20/the-power-of-having-been-parented-well/comment-page-1/#comment-1088 Naomifrederickmd Sun, 21 Sep 2008 01:00:37 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=329#comment-1088 I find the same thing with my husband... he is very open and confident about parenting, He enjoys being a parent and I see it must because his parents enjoyed parenting him. I like co-parenting with him. I hope my boys will enjoy being fathers also after experiencing us as parents. I find the same thing with my husband… he is very open and confident about parenting, He enjoys being a parent and I see it must because his parents enjoyed parenting him. I like co-parenting with him. I hope my boys will enjoy being fathers also after experiencing us as parents.

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