Comments on: Dating http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/08/25/dating/ Thu, 17 May 2012 16:35:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Rita Brhel http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/08/25/dating/comment-page-1/#comment-899 Rita Brhel Fri, 29 Aug 2008 06:29:44 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=148#comment-899 It has taken me a long time to come around to the fact that parenting cannot be the center of my life -- that my marriage must be the top priority in my home, and then my kids. My relationship with the kids comes so naturally -- must be those mothering hormones! -- and it is so easy to justify spending little time with my husband because of the demands of motherhood. But that's so unfair to him. We've just started getting back into date nights again -- after slacking on it for a couple of months -- and I can tell after just one date, that things are going to go a lot more smoothly for us! It has taken me a long time to come around to the fact that parenting cannot be the center of my life — that my marriage must be the top priority in my home, and then my kids. My relationship with the kids comes so naturally — must be those mothering hormones! — and it is so easy to justify spending little time with my husband because of the demands of motherhood. But that’s so unfair to him.

We’ve just started getting back into date nights again — after slacking on it for a couple of months — and I can tell after just one date, that things are going to go a lot more smoothly for us!

]]> By: Nicole http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/08/25/dating/comment-page-1/#comment-898 Nicole Tue, 26 Aug 2008 15:01:00 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=148#comment-898 I'm really fortunate that I have family that I trust nearby - but even if I didn't I'm a huge believer in dating. In spells my DH works long hours. We have 3 kids now and a lot going on in our lives. We held it together really well after the first kid, it got harder after the 2nd and sometimes it's a real struggle now! I find more and more we're doing our own thing and sometimes I can't remember why we married e/o. I love him, of course, it's just hard to connect with all the things we have going on. I used to feel adamant that I wouldn't leave my baby. As I mature as a mother and have more kids I'm feeling like an hour or so w/out me isn't going to harm my kiddo, but may make a huge difference in my marriage. We need a strong foundation to parent well together. The truth is, the kids will grow up and leave and we need to have a marriage on the other end of this! I’m really fortunate that I have family that I trust nearby – but even if I didn’t I’m a huge believer in dating.

In spells my DH works long hours. We have 3 kids now and a lot going on in our lives. We held it together really well after the first kid, it got harder after the 2nd and sometimes it’s a real struggle now! I find more and more we’re doing our own thing and sometimes I can’t remember why we married e/o. I love him, of course, it’s just hard to connect with all the things we have going on.

I used to feel adamant that I wouldn’t leave my baby. As I mature as a mother and have more kids I’m feeling like an hour or so w/out me isn’t going to harm my kiddo, but may make a huge difference in my marriage. We need a strong foundation to parent well together. The truth is, the kids will grow up and leave and we need to have a marriage on the other end of this!

]]> By: Theresa http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/08/25/dating/comment-page-1/#comment-897 Theresa Tue, 26 Aug 2008 07:25:05 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=148#comment-897 We are the same! If my baby can't go, I won't go. While I was visiting my parents recently, she really bonded with my mom, so twice I ran out for 2 hours after the baby fell asleep, knowing that if she did wake up, she'd still feel safe. But back at home, I don't have anyone like my mom, so we just don't go out at night. We do make the most of our adult time at night though :) We are the same! If my baby can’t go, I won’t go. While I was visiting my parents recently, she really bonded with my mom, so twice I ran out for 2 hours after the baby fell asleep, knowing that if she did wake up, she’d still feel safe. But back at home, I don’t have anyone like my mom, so we just don’t go out at night. We do make the most of our adult time at night though :)

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