Comments on: Following My Instincts http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/ Thu, 17 May 2012 16:35:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-133 Welcome to API Speaks - The Blog of Attachment Parenting International Fri, 06 Jun 2008 15:36:32 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-133 [...] month I wrote about a sweet moment I had with Cole, when I responded to his cries, and did not allow him to cry it out. I wish I could say that was [...] [...] month I wrote about a sweet moment I had with Cole, when I responded to his cries, and did not allow him to cry it out. I wish I could say that was [...]

]]> By: Gypsy http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Gypsy Wed, 14 May 2008 04:41:31 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-132 What a great post. I feel so desperately sad when I hear of babies being left to cry and mothers who seem to want to 'break' the baby ... creating such a negative and oppositional feeling between mama and baby. I know I felt huge pressure to leave my little one to cry, and I did give in to this for a short time, but it was disastrous all round. Thank you for sharing your stories, and I would love to read more about how you go with Cole. What a great post. I feel so desperately sad when I hear of babies being left to cry and mothers who seem to want to ‘break’ the baby … creating such a negative and oppositional feeling between mama and baby. I know I felt huge pressure to leave my little one to cry, and I did give in to this for a short time, but it was disastrous all round. Thank you for sharing your stories, and I would love to read more about how you go with Cole.

]]> By: Heather (A Mama's Blog) http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-131 Heather (A Mama's Blog) Wed, 14 May 2008 02:51:16 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-131 Thank you for your comments, pixie & Megan- it really is amazing and humbling how our babies teach us. I never thought a human would be so dependent on just me. It is really distressing, I think for a lot of mothers when they leave their babies to cry- but are told they have to, or their baby will never sleep by themselves, etc. I really hope more and more mothers and fathers can tune into their instincts. If it doesn't feel right to leave your baby to cry it out, then it probably isn't. I do think more and more parents are becoming aware of this, and it was great to see the Dr. Sears' on a "mainstream" show like Dr. Phil explaining why CIO isn't good for babies on a constant basis. I loved how he said, "Respond to your baby." Thank you for your comments, pixie & Megan- it really is amazing and humbling how our babies teach us. I never thought a human would be so dependent on just me.

It is really distressing, I think for a lot of mothers when they leave their babies to cry- but are told they have to, or their baby will never sleep by themselves, etc.

I really hope more and more mothers and fathers can tune into their instincts. If it doesn’t feel right to leave your baby to cry it out, then it probably isn’t.

I do think more and more parents are becoming aware of this, and it was great to see the Dr. Sears’ on a “mainstream” show like Dr. Phil explaining why CIO isn’t good for babies on a constant basis. I loved how he said, “Respond to your baby.”

]]> By: Megan@SortaCrunchy http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-130 Megan@SortaCrunchy Wed, 14 May 2008 02:33:15 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-130 Thank you for this. It speaks to exactly why I could never let my babies cry it out - though I tried it with my first (long story). It is my hope and prayer that this forthcoming research on what is happening to the baby when left to cry will FINALLY turn the tide against cry-it-out in western cultures! Again, thank you for this. Thank you for this. It speaks to exactly why I could never let my babies cry it out – though I tried it with my first (long story). It is my hope and prayer that this forthcoming research on what is happening to the baby when left to cry will FINALLY turn the tide against cry-it-out in western cultures!

Again, thank you for this.

]]> By: pixie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-129 pixie Tue, 13 May 2008 17:09:40 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-129 Beautiful story, thanks for posting it! It always amazes me how much your baby can miss you, even if you've just popped to the bathroom for two minutes and left them safe and happy with daddy. If that's the two minutes when your baby looks for mama and you're not there, their world falls apart! The intensity of a baby's needs is so humbling, it really makes you realise that when they're small, mama is their whole world! Beautiful story, thanks for posting it!

It always amazes me how much your baby can miss you, even if you’ve just popped to the bathroom for two minutes and left them safe and happy with daddy. If that’s the two minutes when your baby looks for mama and you’re not there, their world falls apart! The intensity of a baby’s needs is so humbling, it really makes you realise that when they’re small, mama is their whole world!

]]> By: New Parenting Blog | A Mama's Blog http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-128 New Parenting Blog | A Mama's Blog Tue, 13 May 2008 06:02:30 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-128 [...] I am an official blog contributor, with my first post being posted on Attachment Parenting International’s new blog, API Speaks.  [...] [...] I am an official blog contributor, with my first post being posted on Attachment Parenting International’s new blog, API Speaks.  [...]

]]> By: Heather (A Mama's Blog) http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-127 Heather (A Mama's Blog) Tue, 13 May 2008 03:29:11 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-127 Thank you, Sherrie. Next month I plan to write a follow up to this post. I hope you will check back in. Thank you, Sherrie.

Next month I plan to write a follow up to this post. I hope you will check back in.

]]> By: Sherie http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/2008/05/12/following-my-instincts/comment-page-1/#comment-126 Sherie Tue, 13 May 2008 03:22:53 +0000 http://attachmentparenting.org/blog/?p=32#comment-126 What a lovely story, Heather. Thank you for sharing it :-) What a lovely story, Heather. Thank you for sharing it :-)

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